No context? The Universe is listening,

I realized, at about 3 AM, that I got what I asked for. I didn’t put any parameters or context around it, and I got it. Instead of being upset at the conditions that have made it necessary, I found gratitude at having a desire fulfilled; an ask that I voiced to the Universe beginning more than 35 years ago.

Perhaps this is where “Be careful what you wish for.” came from?

I’ve been in a situation that weighed heavily on my mind. It influenced almost everything I did- crossed my mind when making a decision, big or small. Sometimes, to the point of distracting me from the original decision.

Like so many folks I know, I learned to write down lists of what I want. What does the perfect boyfriend/husband, look, feel, smell like, what do they do, how do they treat me, and on and on. Where do you want to live- what is the climate like, who lives around you, what activities are close at hand? 🔮It’s almost the beginner’s guide to talking to the Universe; it’s an easy introduction to asking for what you want.

One of the things I’ve been looking for my entire life has come to fruition. And it’s making me miserable. 🤣 Let’s call it T.

First, I am generally a very happy person. That this one thing, T, routinely sinks my vibration should have been a clue that I needed to dig into it. This definitely falls into that category of issues that are so close to your face, you just don’t see them.

I’ve been grappling with why I’m so miserable with this situation for probably 18 months.

(As I write this, I’m seeing that this one issue is my albatross, the thing that makes me wholly human, that I don’t share with anyone, that leaves me feeling incredibly raw.)

I woke up about 2:30 AM this morning, restless from a bad dream I couldn’t remember. When the issue came and slapped me in the face.

This is the conversation that happened in my head:

“Why does this make me feel so shitty?

I asked for it.

Wait, I didn’t exactly ask for this.

I thought X, Y, Z would also be happening.

HOLY FUCK!!”

A friend can tell you a story- she comes out smelling like a rose. Then you learn she eliminated a huge amount of context. When you include the context, she doesn’t look so good.

It’s the ultimate in reality TV. You leave out part of the reality, and the entire story is different. Context!

When I created my list for the Universe, I said I wanted T. I did not include any of the context. Honestly, I didn’t even consider the context.

T is for me, an affirmation of love, of 100% acceptance of me by me, the good, the bad, and the stuff we don’t want anyone to see.

What occurred to me in the middle of the night is that the circumstances around T are completely different from what I just assumed would be the surrounding context.

Because the context is different, I have been viewing T as a bad thing, feeling like it was forced. In reality, I got exactly what I ordered.

That one realization changed my outlook.

T is an amazing thing!

So… what did I learn? Context is Queen! When creating that list for the Universe- include the context.

When I think of the time I wasted being angsty about something I’ve always wanted!

Where else am I leaving out the context? You need to create the complete container. Think of it like a house- you could simply say, “I want a house, with 8 rooms, a kitchen, a bathroom, a big bedroom.” And you might get exactly that within this context- in the middle of an area surrounded by landfills, the house is made of drafty wood, with no insulation, the 8 rooms only make up 500 square feet, the kitchen oven is dodgy, and the water coming out of the bathroom sink is brown.

Is that what you wanted? I doubt it.

Add some context: “I want a well- constructed brick home, with 8 rooms- ideally 1400 – 1800 square feet, a kitchen with new appliances, a bathroom with a claw foot tub, and a big, well-lit bedroom. The house sits on a forested piece of land, close to a national park, with clean water.” You can go on and on. Another gift of context is clarity and progress.

For instance, clarity comes when you get a home of 1700 square feet, within what you originally requested, and realize you actually need 2000 to be comfortable. Great! Clarity!

Progress is the Universe getting you ever closer to your desires. Your first home may not be exactly what you asked for, but it could be a significant step toward achieving your desires. That’s how my house growth has occurred. Each home has been a huge step closer to what I ordered from the Universe. Along the way, I have clarified my needs and celebrated every step closer to my version of perfection.

When I created the Embodied CEO Series, I included some context important to me:

1. The length- it’s short, only 60 minutes, so people believe they can fit it into their schedule;

2. It’s intimate, with only the number of participants I can actively focus on, to make certain each participant feels seen, heard, and like they have something impactful to walk away with, 4 participants per call;

3. It’s consistent, one day a week, the same day and time each week;

4. It doesn’t last forever- there is an end date that allows people to participate for just one session, all five, or three;

5. There are enough participants that each one feels supported by the others;

6. It’s a safe space for the participants;

7. Topics are hot.

Those items were the basics of the container, the context for what I was creating.

What have you put out into the world without context?

How has that lack of context impacted what you put out there?

Is something without context driving some of your thoughts and actions?

It certainly was for me! And that one issue doesn’t have to define you, derail everything else you are doing, or muddle your entire life. Imagine what you could create if you added context to your desires, if you tore apart that issue that keeps coming up and actually addressed it.

I’ve redefined my views on T. My heart is full of gratitude for T, the gift of context, and grace for myself.

My entire being feels lighter. The world is brighter.

This is growth.